Self-acclaimed Nigerian relationship expert Blessing Okoro has advised side chicks to know their places and respect the decisions of their married lovers.
She made this statement when she was expressing her view on married men who have children outside the walls of their marriages in a discussion with Arise TV News, monitored by 1Family Radio.
Blessing claimed that as long as the married man fulfills his fatherly duties, the mistress shouldn’t object if he asks her to hide their child.
Let’s be real, mistress, simply means, I am in love with you, but I have a wife, and I cannot marry you. So instead of just being there, let’s bond and have a child together. If I cannot give you marriage, let’s have something that ties us together.’’
When asked by the host if she is willing to have a child with a married man as a side chick and hide the child, she noted, “Of course, the only thing I need is to know the root of the father. When my child grows up, he can go and look for the father.’’
There are a lot of things that can affect the mental health of children, but unfortunately, I am a realist,’’ she said in response to the question of whether her decision wouldn’t have any implications for the mental health of the child.
“I like to say things as they happen, not as they’re supposed to be. There are certain things that are supposed to be, but they are not.’’
“So let’s face the reality and be able to deal with it. If you’re a side chick and you have a child and the father says I don’t want to bring this home, respect him if he’s doing what he’s supposed to do as a father,’’ she added.